Cover Datuk Nicol David and her mum Ann Marie David tell Tatler what makes their bond special (Photo: Fady Younis)

Behind every great athlete is a mother who made the sacrifice for greatness. Datuk Nicol David and her mum Ann Marie David tell Tatler what makes their bond special

Careers come and go. Glory passes out of memory as easily as it came, and even the most glittering trophies gather dust.

But a mother’s influence? A teacher’s impact? These are forces that bear on most, if not all, of our lives. 

Ann Marie David said as much and lives by what she believes. And given that she is the mother of eight-time world squash champion, Datuk Nicol Ann David, I’d bet the ranch that Ann Marie knows exactly what she’s talking about.

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Above Ann Marie David and her daughter, eight-time world squash champion, Datuk Nicol Ann David

“Teachers are so important,” says Ann Marie, who followed in her father’s footsteps as an educator along with her two sisters.

“The impact you have on the children lasts forever.” Ann Marie fondly recalls her father’s easygoing nature, and how he never pressured his children beyond what they could handle.

“That wasn’t my father’s way. My math skills were so poor as a child. I remember telling him ‘Daddy, I might fail.’ And he told me ‘Don’t worry, I also always failed Maths!’. We had that kind of upbringing.”

It’s not surprising then, that Ann Marie never put unrealistic pressure on her daughters’ academic and athletic pursuits.

She had one rule: do your best, and be grateful to those who helped you get where you are today.

When she would miss out on classes during major tournaments, Nicol would confide in her mother that she feared she would fail her exams. “I told her, even if you fail, it’s OK,” Ann Marie says. For the record? Nicol was a straight-A student all the way, her mother notes with pride.

Nicol recalls how present her mother was in her life, despite working full-time as a teacher.

“Even though they worked, both my parents made an effort to be present, whether it's at the squash courts or at home. My mum always made time for us. After she would come back from school, she would cook meals, prepare us for our homework, and help us out with anything we needed. We always felt she was present. I think that's really where I learned the importance of a strong family bond and a positive home environment,” says Nicol.

After retiring from squash, Nicol was determined to give back to society, creating after-school programmes to empower young athletes via the Nicol David Organisation’s hugely successful ‘Little Legends’ initiative.

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The organisation’s Ibu Legends programme was launched a little later, designed to support the mothers of aspiring athletes with health screenings, wellness tips and a community they could grow to trust and love.

“It's rewarding to see the change in how the mums interact with their families now that they're looking after themselves a bit better. All mums are just trying to figure it out too. If they have a little bit of guidance and if we can give them that, that's already a plus.” 

October 2025 marked the first ever Ibu Legends Summit in Kuala Lumpur, a whole-day event devoted to celebrating mothers.

From journaling exercises and breathing techniques, participants at the summit also had a chance to contribute their hand-painted artworks as part of a mini-exhibition and art contest at the event.

For many of these women, stepping out if even just for a day to prioritise themselves was a joy and a much-needed break.

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Above Ann Marie David was a full-time teacher, following in her own father’s footsteps

“The world teaches us materialism,” adds Ann Marie, who participates in many of the Ibu Legends workshops. “It's the greed that says ‘I want more. I want to be the best. I don't want to lose out to this person.’

“The ability to let go and enjoy the goodness of life is missing. That’s why I’m so very happy that they [Nicol David Organisation] are doing this for the mothers,” she muses.

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Above “I was away for 16 years of my life since I was 18 years old, so it’s been wonderful having more time with my mum at this point in my life,” Nicol says
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Above “The ability to let go and enjoy the goodness of life is missing,” says Ann Marie

For Nicol, the process of running Ibu Legends and hosting the first Ibu Legends Summit has been a two-fold blessing.

It’s given her the means to impact the mothers out there who have neglected their health for so long. Secondly, it’s been a season of growing closer than ever to her mother.

“I was away for 16 years of my life since I was 18 years old,” Nicol says. “Often, I only spent time with my mum or dad three times in a year, and only a few weeks at a time. Now that my squash career is over, and we’re in a new phase helping other families, I’m so glad my mum is involved. People really see so much power in what she has to offer, what she can say or do. It’s been wonderful having more time to share with her at this point in my life.”

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Tania Jayatilaka
Digital Editor, Tatler Malaysia

Previously contributing to Esquire Malaysia, Expat Lifestyle and Newsweek, Tania oversees digital stories across Tatler’s key content pillars, also leading the Front & Female platform exploring issues and topics affecting women today.